Dating Is An Extreme Sport


Come to think of speed, the high physical exertion, the high risk involved, dangerous and exciting at the same time, that’s dating for me. Dating means different things for different people but one thing I know is that it is far from easy. Dating seems easy when shown in movies and series, there is always a happy ending in the end, which is far from reality.

Personally I think most people tend to confuse dating and courtship.

What is dating ?

Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage.

What is courtship?

A period during which a couple develop a romantic relationship before getting married.

I don’t intend to do a relationship 101 but I think most people confuse dating and relationship. To me the two are different. Dating is a stage where people should get to know each other and decide whether they should get into a relationship. Which is quite the opposite with courtship, people who are already in a relationship with the goal of getting married.

Dating is an extreme sport in the African context. Getting to know someone has got to be one of the most difficult things. Both parties needs to present a picture square of themselves. The time and commitment placed in pleasing someone at times is just too much. I believe it is one of the most dangerous times as one would thrive to portray a “saint” self.

So in dating, I’d say be your true self. The initial stages determines whether a relationship will be viable or not. If you start on the wrong foot, you will find challenges in trying to maintain something that you are not.

Family Day 2


Family is the one of the most important institution which make up a society. In the African society, extended families are a common feature in the society. Like the saying which say…

It takes a village to raise a child. ~ African proverb

In Africa, we tend to live with our brothers and sisters from uncles and aunts and we rarely attach the title “cousin” to our uncles and aunts children.

A family is like a forest, when you are outside it is dense, when you are inside you see that each tree has its place. ~ African Proverb

No matter how big or small the house is, it is never too big or too small to accommodate family. I remember when I was a kid I’ll get angry if relatives came to stay with us. The only thing I’ll be thinking of was these people have come to take my sleeping place. I had this kind of mindset until I was in high school when I realized of the importance of family.

My grandfather passed away when I was only 7 years. I have no vivid memory of his or the moments we shared together. At the same time I feel like I know him because of the stories I’ve heard about him. His love for our family. He was someone who brought people together. It is from him I have come to know the meaning and value of family. I have come to believe that there is no such thing as extended family, family is family.

A family tie is like a tree, it can bend but it cannot break. ~ African proverb


Hello September! Day 1

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It is that time of the year again, September my favourite month. If you were to ask you why. I’d gladly tell you that because September is my birthday month. So the month of September is the best time for me.

NB: Happy birthday September babies


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I was so looking forward to the #BlogTemberChallenge as it is a time to meet, mix and mingle with a lot of bloggers. I am not really a constant blogger myself. I write whenever I feel like writing and most of the time when I need to put my mind at ease.

This #BlogTemberChallenge I am not promising to write everyday, but I will try to write something everyday . I am not really a writer but I do write (lol)

So here is to every #AfroBlogger out there HAPPY WRITING.